Saturday, January 16, 2010

Having a Ball


Recently I found myself sitting around a table with a large group of acquaintances. The conversation was about this and that - nothing particularly interesting. Until, that is, the man sitting opposite me, who had been telling us about a recent encounter with someone, said - and I forget his exact words, but it was close to "Get me a ball gag."

My first reaction was surprise, then I laughed nervously but looked around to see if anyone interpreted my laugh as understanding. That's when I began to examine the reactions of the others around the table.

A few laughed loudly and appreciatively. Some merely smiled. More remained silent and impassive. I wondered about that last group. Did they understand the term? (It isn't exactly a common household item in most homes, and it's only since I have been actively reading spanking blogs that I've become aware of their existence.) Were they shocked? Disgusted? Mystified? Oblivious? It was all over in an instant, so maybe some of the group missed the reference.

Then I wondered how my own reaction had been interpreted. Was I someone in the know? Or just someone laughing along with the group? Did I look like I was offended? Finally I pondered the possibilities concerning the man who started it all. Why would he think of referring to a ball gag if he wasn't familiar with them, or if he didn't think his audience would understand?

What do you think is the best way to handle an unexpected reference like that?



From Hermione's Heart

9 comments:

Paul said...

Hermione, perhaps he was saying something like, "I got me a ball gag," which if you weren't paying attention could be easily misunderstood.
After all a ball-gag is a pretty specialised bit of BDSM equipment.
Warm hugs,
Paul.

Fabsterrant said...

He was probably thinking about asking for a raise and thought the better of it. I think a ball gag is a very sexy item and should be used often. Wikipedia has a detailed report on them with models demonstrating a variety of the erotic little devils. If anyone looks I wanna know,lol.

ronnie said...

I would have loved to know what he was actually saying before he said "Get me a ball gag" and did he mean for himself or somebody else?

I think the way you you handled it was perfect.

Hope you enjoy the weekend.

Love.
Ronnie
xx

Hermione said...

Paul - Perhaps I got it wrong (my mind being where it is most of the time!)

Fab - I think I've seen enough of them.

Ronnie - Possibly something about being quiet. He's a talkative type.

Hugs,
Hermione

Anonymous said...

I believe that you would need to know the context of when the expression was stated. Depending on the people involved, I would take it one step further. Something of the ball gag only if you intended to spank him or her being referred to.
Enjoy life! :-)
Red

Daisychain said...

Ummm... I am assuming it is that ball shaped thing that is somehow fixed in the mouth to prevent someone crying out? I have never seen one in real life, only in a couple of vid clips, where they are not very visible?
Am guessing that when Davey gets here, and finds out I have no on/off switch, I may see one up close and personal soon after....
Anyway, to answer your question, I would have pretended not to hear.... rather than die of embarrassment....
Hugs, xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hermione said...

Red - I wouldn't care to explore my kink with the speaker, so will leave it there.

Daisy - Yep, it's one of those. I chose not to use a picture of one - too graphic for me!!

Maybe Davey can think of another way to stop your flow of words :-)

Hugs,
Hermione

Love4her said...

I know what I would get him for his birthday or next Christmas! Anon of course but given while in a group setting.

Great way to spice up any small group meeting.

Hermione said...

Love4her - that's a very intriguing idea!